What we check, what we can't, how to report someone, how to meet sensibly, and exactly what a matrimonial scam looks like. Read it before you need it.
If you are in immediate danger, call 000
For family, domestic or sexual violence, 1800RESPECT is free and available 24 hours on 1800 737 732. If you are being pressured into a marriage you do not want, Anti-Slavery Australia's My Blue Sky service can help confidentially. To report a scam, go to scamwatch.gov.au; to report online crime, cyber.gov.au/report.
Four checks, shown separately
Email, phone, photo and government ID. Each is its own badge so you can see what has actually been confirmed about the person you're talking to.
You decide what's visible
Photos can be public, members-only, Premium-only or connection-only. Discovery shows a first name and last initial. Phone numbers are only ever released when both people agree.
Reports go to a person
Every report is read by our team, not a queue that empties itself. We can warn, remove content, suspend or permanently remove an account, and we keep the records.
We name the scams
Romance and matrimonial fraud is the single biggest risk on any service like this. Our safety page spells out exactly what the pattern looks like so you can recognise it early.
How verification works
Verification on Wedyesday is four separate checks, and your profile shows which ones you've passed rather than collapsing them into a single tick. Nobody has to complete all four, but each one you add makes it easier for another family to take your profile seriously.
What each check proves is narrow, and we'd rather be precise about it than let a badge imply more than it should.
Email — confirms the address works and belongs to whoever clicked the link. Required for every account.
Phone — a one-time code to an Australian or international mobile. Confirms the number is live and in that person's hands right now.
Photo — a live selfie compared against the profile photos by our team. Confirms the photos are of the person using the account. It does not confirm their name.
Government ID — a passport, driver licence or similar, checked by our team against the profile name and date of birth, then deleted from active storage once the check is complete. This is the one that confirms who someone says they are.
A verified badge means those specific checks passed. It is not a character reference, a background check, or a criminal history check, and we will never present it as one.
What we check before a profile goes live
Every new profile is reviewed by a person before it appears in search. We're looking for a small number of specific things, and most profiles pass first time.
Photos that aren't of the member, are lifted from somewhere else, or are explicit.
Contact details, external links or handles pushed into the profile text — a standard scam opener, because it moves you somewhere with no protections.
Profile text copied from another member, or the same person running several accounts.
Ages, marital status or family details that contradict each other in an obvious way.
Anything that reads as an advertisement, a service, or a solicitation rather than a person looking to marry.
Illustrative profiles we wrote ourselves to demonstrate the product are labelled Sample profile everywhere they appear, carry no photographs, and cannot be contacted or accept an interest.
What other members can see
Discovery shows a first name and a last initial. Your full name, your exact address, your employer and your contact details are never rendered to another member by the platform — they only ever move because you decide to share them.
Photo visibility is yours to set, per profile: visible to everyone, to signed-in members only, to Premium members only, or only to people you've connected with. You can hide your profile entirely at any time without deleting it, and you can delete it outright.
Premium Plus members can request contact details. That request does nothing on its own: the number is only released when both people have agreed.
How to report someone, and what happens next
Every profile and every conversation has a Report and a Block option. Blocking is instant and silent — the other member isn't told, and they stop being able to see you or contact you.
A report goes to our team and is read by a person. We aim to respond within two business days, and we act on anything that suggests immediate risk straight away. You'll get an acknowledgement, and we'll tell you the outcome where we're able to.
Depending on what we find, we can issue a warning, remove content, restrict an account's ability to contact anyone, suspend the account, or remove it permanently. We keep records of removed accounts so the same person can't quietly come back, and we cooperate with police where there's a criminal matter.
Report anyone who asks you for money, gift cards, cryptocurrency or bank details. Always. Even if it feels rude.
Report anyone pushing you off the platform in the first few messages.
Report photos you believe belong to someone else, or a profile that appears to be a duplicate.
Report abusive, threatening or sexual messages, and anyone who won't take no for an answer.
You can also email support@wedyesday.com, or use the report form on the site if you'd rather not do it from inside the conversation. Reports can be made anonymously.
Meeting safely
Nothing here is unusual advice, but it's worth reading before the first meeting rather than after it. The overwhelming majority of members are exactly who they say they are; these habits cost you nothing and matter enormously on the rare occasion someone isn't.
Video call before you meet. Someone who will not video call after weeks of conversation is telling you something.
Meet in a public place the first few times, in daylight, and preferably somewhere you know.
Arrange your own transport there and back. Don't be dependent on a lift home.
Tell a family member or friend where you're going, who you're meeting and when you expect to be back. Share your live location with them if your phone does that.
Keep your home address, your workplace and your daily routine to yourself until trust is genuinely established.
Stay in control of your drink, and stop the meeting if anything feels off. You never owe anyone an explanation for leaving.
Bringing a parent, sibling or friend to a first meeting is completely normal in this community. Anyone who objects to family being involved early is worth a second look.
What a matrimonial scam looks like
Romance and matrimonial fraud is the most serious risk on any matchmaking service, and Australians lose a great deal of money to it every year. The people who run it are organised, patient and rehearsed. They are good at this, which is why intelligent, careful people fall for it — being taken in is not a character flaw.
The pattern is remarkably consistent. If several of these are true at once, stop and talk to someone you trust before you do anything else.
It moves very fast. Declarations of love, talk of marriage and family within days, long before you've met.
They push you onto WhatsApp, Telegram or email almost immediately, where nobody is watching and nothing can be reviewed.
There is always a reason they can't video call: a broken camera, a bad connection, an offshore job, a hospital, a military posting.
Their circumstances explain the distance perfectly — a contract overseas, a rig, a deployment, a business trip that keeps extending.
Photos look professional or too polished. A reverse image search finds them attached to another name.
Details drift. The city changes, the sister's name changes, the timeline doesn't add up, and the English shifts between messages.
Then comes money: a medical emergency, customs charges on a gift, a visa or travel fee, a frozen account, a business deal that just needs a short-term loan.
Or it comes as an opportunity: a can't-lose crypto or forex platform they'll help you set up. The early withdrawals work. The large one never does.
They ask for intimate photos or video, then threaten to send them to your family. This is sextortion, it is a crime, and the answer is to stop replying and report it — not to pay.
They ask you to receive money or parcels and forward them on. That is money laundering, and you'd be the one holding it.
No Wedyesday member, employee or contractor will ever ask you for money, gift cards, cryptocurrency, bank details or your password. If someone claims to be from Wedyesday and asks for any of those things, they are not from Wedyesday. Report it.
Where to get help in Australia
If you're in immediate danger, call 000.
You do not need to be certain before you report something, and you have not wasted anyone's time by asking. These services are free and they deal with this every day.
Scamwatch and the National Anti-Scam Centre — report a scam or check whether something is one: scamwatch.gov.au
ReportCyber — report online crime including romance fraud and sextortion: cyber.gov.au/report
eSafety Commissioner — have intimate images removed and get help with image-based abuse: esafety.gov.au
IDCARE — free support if your identity documents have been compromised: 1800 595 160
1800RESPECT — national family, domestic and sexual violence counselling, 24 hours: 1800 737 732
Lifeline — 24-hour crisis support: 13 11 14
Your bank — call them immediately if you've sent money. Speed genuinely matters with a transfer.
What we commit to
These are the standards we hold ourselves to, and you can hold us to them too.
We will never sell your profile, your photos or your contact details to anyone.
We will never fabricate members, fake activity, or send you messages that appear to come from another member.
Illustrative profiles are always labelled, always photo-free, and never contactable.
We will never ask for your password, and we will never ask you to pay another member.
When you delete your profile, we delete it — we don't keep it warm in case you come back.
If we get something wrong, we'll say so and fix it.
Safety questions we get asked
What does a verified badge actually mean?
Exactly the check it names, and nothing more. A phone badge means a code was sent to a live mobile in that person's hands. A photo badge means our team compared a live selfie against the profile photos. An ID badge means a government document was checked against the profile name and date of birth. None of them is a character reference.
Do you run police or criminal history checks?
No, and we won't claim otherwise. We verify identity and photos; we cannot access criminal records, and no matrimony platform in Australia can do that on your behalf. That is precisely why the meeting-safely advice on this page matters, whatever badges a profile carries.
What happens to my ID document after verification?
It's reviewed by a person, the result is recorded against your profile as a badge, and the document is removed from active storage once the check is complete. We don't keep a library of members' passports, and we never show your document to another member.
Someone has asked me for money. What should I do?
Don't send it, stop the conversation, and report the profile. Then read our guide on matrimonial scams — an early, modest request is the standard opening, not an exception to it. If you've already sent money, call your bank straight away and report it at scamwatch.gov.au.
Can I use the site without showing my photos to everyone?
Yes. Photo visibility is a setting on your own profile: everyone, signed-in members only, Premium members only, or only people you've connected with. Discovery only ever shows your first name and last initial regardless of that setting.
If I block someone, will they know?
No. Blocking is silent and immediate — they stop being able to see your profile or contact you, and they aren't notified. Reporting is separate, and can be done anonymously.
How quickly do you act on a report?
Every report is read by a person. We aim to respond within two business days and we act immediately on anything suggesting a risk to someone's safety. Where we can tell you the outcome, we will.
Something isn't right?
Use the report option on the profile or the conversation, email support@wedyesday.com, or send it through the form below. Reports can be anonymous, you don't need proof, and every one is read by a person.